The Full Court Heeve: Are they out of your league?

Today, I want to focus on the term out of your league. How many of you believe that this is a thing?

Women nowadays are more likely to shoot their shots at men which I feel is a good thing, however the times that I see them shooting their shot, it seems to be with a guy who's in better shape, has more sex appeal, is doing much better financially, is younger, and/or with less baggage. It could be a number of things to be honest, but this is usually the only time I see a woman step outside of her comfort zone. Men are more likely to play the field and test the waters with women of all social classes because men are more likely to see each individual woman for the purpose she serves. When a woman wants a life partner, she's less likely to get sidetracked by something temporary like a man would.

Does this mean that women do not accept offers from men who are not in a better position than they are? No, of course not. And attraction isn't the only thing that determines your dating pool, but it's the first thing that you see. Style, sex appeal, and scent play a huge role in the beginning stages of getting someone's attention.

Lastly, men and women handle rejection differently. Men who are normally the pursuers won't let failure deter them from trying again, meanwhile a woman who is not used to stepping outside of her comfort zone and approaching a man might become discouraged if she is rejected. The irony is that she may be setting herself up to be rejected if she's approaching men who she knows might not find her attractive or more of a burden than a partner.

Food for thought.

Emotional Rollercoaster: Are ups and downs healthy for a relationship?

If you ask the average person what kind of relationship they would prefer, most would allude to a relationship where issues did not exist. But is it possible that a person gets bored with a lack of excitement in their relationship?

There are more than a few ways to create excitement, and excitement doesn't always mean fun in a traditional sense, change is exciting, New Adventures, taking on new responsibilities can be exciting to some. The kind of excitement that I honestly prefer is traveling, moving to a different location, changing jobs or getting a promotion, exploring new hobbies together. This can create the same effect as the typical issues brought in to a relationship that create this breakup to makeup feeling where a new love is found and the relationship is Reborn [but without the down-feeling.].

The couple that goes on to work the same jobs for several years, comes home and has the same routine, lacks this feeling. In these types of relationships, I think we are more likely to see issues created that bring excitement into the relationship and sometimes unbeknownst to the person who's bringing the issues foward. Because of that, maybe it's healthy to experience disagreements at times, to work through issues and feel rejuvenated to some degree. I'm not saying you should create issues, but understand that they may be what's actually keeping things interesting because two people may become bored with each other and want to move on if they fall too deeply into a routine, and honestly, I think that's natural.

A rollercoaster is a lot more exciting than a train-ride.

Thoughts?