I think people need to eventually grasp what is attractive to the opposite sex and actually address those issues within themselves. I learned with growth and maturity, that it doesn't matter how attractive I was physically to a mature woman who was looking to build a future with me. When my credit was shitty, didn't have a savings, didn't have my own place, it was very hard to sustain anything long term with a woman of substance. My value as a man starts there.
Nowadays, women are placing their value in the same places. They are focusing more on school, their careers, and putting having a family on the back burner. The issue is, the same things that are attractive to a woman of substance, might not be first on the list to a man of substance. Of course, we do want a woman who's got her shit together, but if a man has his shit together, he knows he can pull someone who has their shit together along with someone who's "trophy worthy."
A man who's successful = a woman who falls into 3-F territory. FFF = fit, fine, & fertile. The added bonus is she has her shit together just like the added bonus for women is a man who's successful and is also tall + attractive.
So when we assess the term "out of your league", it basically says that one person has you beat in both categories. A man is more successful and more attractive or a woman is more attractive and more successful.
