"The American psychology researcher Roy Baumeister of Florida State University has been advancing for some time now an interesting theory that analyzes the sexual act from an economic perspective. According to Baumeister, heterosexual sex can be understood as a marketplace in which men are the buyers and women are the sellers. According to this analysis, sex is essentially a female resource. In other words, female sexual activity is much in demand and has high social value, in contrast to male activity, which is plentiful and easy to come by and therefore worthless. A woman’s sexual consent is a valuable asset that may command a high price. Because his sex has no value in the market, the man, seeking to 'purchase' female sex, is required to bring other valuable social resources to the transaction, such as attention, time, love, respect, commitment, money, status, etc." -Noam Shpancer Ph.D./Psychology today
One can easily make the case that women value sex more because men do. Nevermind the time invested which I feel should be held in higher regard than sex or the emotional energy invested which I also feel should be held in higher regard. The one thing she'll make you wait for, for weeks or months even, is sex. But get this, when you have sex and leave her high & dry because that's all you wanted, she hates herself because of how much time and energy she invested in you.
Maybe the truth is, if men placed more value on a woman's time or their emotional energy, that's exactly what we'd be holding out for, for weeks or months. That's what men do, dangle their time and emotional energy in front of women in a game of keep-away while they are withholding the thing we want the most. The difference is, men are willing to play the game until they get what they want whilst women will not give in until they feel 'sure'.
But can you ever be sure how a man will act after you've given in to his sexual desires without actually giving into them? Many have tried, many have failed as they say.
Think about this though. It might be less time consuming for women if they actually knew how men would react to them post-sex before they invested time and energy into them, rather than that being the last thing on their list of check-offs.
It's possible that because of my particular difference of opinion regarding sex, that I'm going off on a limb here. To me, sex, like the dollar bill, has been given it's value in society but really when you look at it, it's just a piece of paper that we chose to give value. I personally tend to place more value on my time because that's something that I will never get back. I place more value with emotional investment because a bad experience can scar me for years. Bad sex is just that.
But don't worry, I know society is critical of this thought process, however, a different one may be needed to reach a different result. To each their own, though.
I'm just saying.
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